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Claiming Each Other Certificate Training
“Claiming Each Other is an embodied skillset for people who want to learn to love each other more kindly in the complexity and messiness of our unfinished humanness…especially when things get really tough.”
- Lorie Solis, founder
The Certificate Training
An accredited 60 hour training blending theory, practice and real-life integration over 12 powerful weeks.
Join an intimate learning cohort in interactive classes, either online or in-person in Southwest Portugal. Groups participate together, practicing and integrating skills collaboratively.
Outside of the classroom, groups will deepen their learning and apply their skills with somatic practices, reflection exercises, reading/viewing/listening resources, and real-life relational integration.
Over the 12 weeks (with one week off halfway), each group will complete a collective case-study, documenting a currently unfolding scenario within the group or its members, and apply Claiming Each Other skills in real time.
WEEKLY TIME COMMITMENT
As a group you will engage in one live teaching session (online or in-person) - 2 hours
Self study, reflection, and practice with resources provided - 2 hours
Creation of written case study - 1 hour
Curriculum
Over 6 learning modules, you’ll study nervous system basics and our somatic first aid protocol; indigenous wisdom to widen your perspective and engage your heart; and embodied practices to ground you in connection to yourself and others.
LOOKING INWARD
Learn to recognize the ways stress shows up in our bodies
Investigate and map out your own nervous system responses
Explore your roots and ancestry: who and what has shaped you?
Investigate the origin stories of your perceptions, biases & beliefs
Practice somatic exercises to “put on your oxygen mask first” before you jump to take care of others
REACHING OUTWARD
Attune to the people around you with openness and curiosity, even when you’re triggered
Learn how to de-escalate conflict and reduce harm in heated moments
Build communication skills for hard-to-talk-about topics in your everyday relationships
Grow your ability to notice and name when relationship rupture happens, and step compassionately into repair
Use the CLAIM US somatic first aid steps to move yourself and others through intense situations
Learn | Practice | Embody
CLAIM US is the step-by-step somatic first aid protocol we learn and practice throughout the Claiming Each Other training.
This is the embodied skillset we need to stay connected to others - and ourselves - in tough times.
“I feel a palpable change in my level of self-awareness, especially regarding my behaviors and circumstances, and how they are connected to my nervous system.”
Fall 2024 Student
Who is this training for?
For you, if you’re ready to…
Become a more healing presence in the lives of the people around you, from long-term relationships to brief connections.
Strengthen your quality of response-ability, resiliency and connection within yourself and your relationships.
Break out of conflict patterns of reactivity, arguing, avoidance, defensiveness, hurt and harm.
Relate to the people around you with more confidence, competence and compassion.
Create healthier boundaries in your relationships.
Expand your capacity to love and be loved beyond your own fears, anxieties, and limiting beliefs.
Feel more resourced in the moments you’re stretched, triggered, or overwhelmed.
Claiming Each Other Founder & Trainer
MEET LORIE
Lorie has devoted her life to studying how we can better nurture dignity, safety and belonging for each other.
She brings many years of professional expertise and lived experience in the fields of somatics, mindbody practices, spiritual ecology, indigenous wisdom, somatic abolitionism, disability justice, and grassroots activism.
Foundational Wisdoms of Claiming Each Other
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From indigenous knowledge to modern neurobiology, we know that human beings are designed for togetherness. Our health and wellbeing depend largely on the quality of our close relationships.
Pain, conflict, struggle and trauma always have a relational element, whether they happen within the context of our closest relationships or not.
Therefore, healing too is relational in nature. It includes a person’s relationship with themselves, their relationship with the people around them, and their relationship with place and spirit.
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“Safety” is hugely subjective based on many, many facets of a person’s neurobiology, mind-body-soul state, current need, history, intergenerational story (epigenetics) and ancestral lines. It’s not something we can simply manufacture or guarantee.
Feeling unsafe, distressed or traumatized sets in when people feel isolated in their struggle. When they feel disconnected, abandoned or shut out from themselves, others, place or spirit.
The antidote to trauma is connection in the context of the struggle. In the presence of threat, connection engages and amplifies our inner capacity for resilience and healing. That’s what makes us feel safe.
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As herd animals, we’re designed to co-regulate for the collective survival and wellbeing of our small groups. How? By looking out for each other, protecting each other and metabolizing the effects of stress and trauma together.
Some of us may have a compromised capacity for offering our stabilizing and healing presence to others, due to chronic stress, trauma or other demands in our lives. Our innate capacities can also be challenged interpersonally when we’re confronted with our own triggers.
Still, underneath the stress or trauma lies the undeniable intelligence of our biology and ancestral resilience. When we engage these intelligences, it activates our innate capacity to offer stabilization and healing in difficult times.
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Most people never receive explicit relationship training other than implicit messages about how to get and give love, safety, care and connection. Most people also have no training in emotional intelligence, relational intelligence and integrity, relationship first aid, conflict resolution and how to support growth and transformation within a relationship.
When challenges inevitably come, we tend to fall into our ‘biological training’ for threat response: defensiveness, avoidance, arguing, overwhelm. Training ourselves in relationship intelligence and relationship first-aid gives us more skillful options when we’re confronted with the challenges of loving and caring for each other.
Just like any first-response training, be it firefighters, traditional first-aid or emergency personnel, Claiming Each Other students learn to stabilize themselves in times of intensity, in order to assess, discern and act on behalf of the collective wellbeing of themselves and those they support.
An embodied skillset to turn your good intentions into real impact
Clear steps for responding to conflict while reducing harm to yourself and others
Somatic practices to help you move through stress and feel safe
More capacity to hold the emotional reactions of those around you
A stabilizing routine for your nervous system no matter what’s happening
Less resistance to letting yourself be loved and supported by those around you
Making life-changing relational skills accessible to groups and communities is at the heart of what we do.
We design our trainings to support participation across different circumstances, recognising that groups come with varied needs, capacities, and resources. Some groups may need more flexibility in scheduling, format, or pacing and we do our best to make space for that.
Our intention is to create a learning environment that is welcoming, meaningful, and reachable for all who are committed to practicing Claiming Each Other together. By participating, your group contributes to a community of care that strengthens relationships both inside and beyond the training room.
Together, we invest in each other—not just in our own learning, but in the collective well-being and capacity of the communities we belong to.
Investing in each other looks like this.
And like this.
When you take the Claiming Each Other training, you’re not just investing in yourself and your fellow students.
You’re providing important financial support for Associação Comadres in Southwest Portugal. A local non-profit with women’s shelter, library, apothecary and herb farm.
Claiming Each Other is Comadres' flagship training. Payment for this training is a donation.
“Claiming Each Other has been one of the rare spaces where I’ve felt so welcome and embraced in my being. Like I belong.”
Fall 2024 Student
Learning to claim each other is crucial. Here’s why.
WE NEED A STARTING POINT
This moment in history sees “us vs. them” thinking, fear and dehumanization on the rise. Leaders and governments are saying and doing unthinkable things. People on the internet are hateful. In the face of despair and overwhelm, Claiming Each Other helps us start small — with ourselves and our immediate circle, rippling healing out through our communities to the world.
WE NEED EACH OTHER
Self-help. Self-reliance. The dominant culture wants us to believe we’re isolated individuals in competition with each other. Claiming Each Other helps us return to the ancient wisdom of collective care, teaching us how to show up for each other. Togetherness is a powerful antidote for disconnection, and a medicine for the people.
Relationship first aid skills the world needs right now.
Get trained and start being the change.